Many times we encounter bullying even in the softest form which may make us feel a little less inferior to the next person. This often comes with a shift of thought, many a times, negative making us feel worthless and helpless. We all are created with innate resilience but our experiences, emotions and thought patterns sometimes suppresses this quality or strength. Resilience is the reason you are able to get through a stormy season in your life, apart from grace. But sometimes we are just too focused on what people have to say about us that we don’t know how to positively control and monitor our thought patterns. In the self-help books I have read, I have learned the following in building a good self-defense mechanism
1. Monitoring our emotions
It is essential to ask ourselves where our emotions are coming from and assessing why we feel that way. Knowing what triggers our emotions will allow us to better understand and control our emotions. The next time you react emotionally, as yourself the following:
– What emotion(s) are you feeling?
– What was your response?
– Did it make you feel better or worse?
– Did it make the situation better or worse?
– What would you have done differently?
We need to learn to think rationally to any situation before we can attach emotion to it. Sometimes our emotions, especially when negative, can get in the way of progress.
Why don’t you take the time this week to practice this and see what difference it makes? Feedback will be highly appreciated
I’ll be sharing more on how you can build a good self-defense mechanism as time goes by!